The oneliner “Good things come to those who wait”, never appealed to me. How does that work anyway? You just sit around and wait and then suddenly you’ll get smacked with all the things you want? Only in Hollywood (movies) or your dreams. Besides that: if something is worth it, you always have to work for it. That applies to everything. From a great job and good friendships to a nice house and a stable relationship. It’s all part of the continuous work-hard-for-it game.
While you are working very hard for example to get a great job, a little thing called impatience comes looking around the corner. Because you actually want it like…right now. Right now isn’t always on the menu, so you have to work harder. The thing is: if you believe that you’ll end up where you want to be, you will. Because where there is a will, there is a way. In this case your impatience will be your motivation.
Nonetheless, be realistic. Be very realistic. Contacts where you’re always the one taking initiative… Situations where you’re the only one twisting things to the positive side… In other words, situations where you’re the only one making effort while it’s a two-way street: that’s a waste of your effort and time. When you realise this, it’s a good time to stop and start again in another street.
Remember: one of the great gifts you can give to someone is your time, because that’s something you’ll never get back. Only spend your effort on those people (and situations) that are willing to make the same effort for you.
Obviously that’s easier said than done. A great first impression can lead to a very dissapointing tenth impression. A gut feeling is important, but when your gut changes its mind, don’t forget to take your brain with you. Either way: do not permanently invest in situations or people who see you as a temporarily asset. It’s a waste of the greatest free gifts: effort and time.