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mental scales

When I say scales, you probably think about a healthy physical weight or balance.
Especially balance is important, not just physically but also mentally. When you think about your life: how much weight do you put on the positive experiences and how much on the negative experiences? Wild guess, but there won’t be any balance because the negativity tips the scales.

In fact…most people give more “weight” to the negative experiences. Now (unfortunately), some people go through very negative experience in life which have a great impact on their life. And in that case it’s logical to give more weight to the negative experiences. On the other hand roughly said, you have the “average” person who’s had a normal childhood, with a roof over his head, educated, a (loving family), with the conveniences of the modern Western world and freedom. The funny thing is that the people who’ve had very bad experiences or have less are more likely to give more weight to the positive things in their life.
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Oriental Spice and some Chocolate

Expectations, expectations…who doesn’t have them? Subconsciously they arise while you’re living your life. When you were a kid, you probably had expectations about how your future would look like when you “would be older”. Well, now you are older. And did it turn out the way you thought as a kid? Chances are that it didn’t. It may be better, it may be worse or you’re in that extraordinary zone that has a life that turned out exactly as you thought it would be. Expectations that never got the chance to meet reality usually go hand in hand with dissapointment. Dissapointment that things didn’t work out as you’ve planned or as you’ve always imagined. But don’t confuse expectations with goals. Goals are within your own control, you just have to work for it.

The biggest dissapointments usually have nothing to do with things, but with people. If you’re a person with a good heart, you will give a lot: love, care, compassion… you name it. A good heart these days is hard to find, so you’ll probably receive less. And that’s the point when you usually get hurt, especially when people you care about, don’t return the same “gifts” to you.
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